“Is Camille married?” She asked me. “No, not yet. I am just praying for the right girl to come along.”
She choked on her response. “Oh. Oh. Oh. I am so glad you are okay with that.”
Yes, yes, yes. I am okay with that.
I was at a wedding in Montgomery, Alabama this summer. A town I love and have called home since I was in the 9th Grade. I left there when I went to college. My husband, a lawyer, and I returned to Montgomery when we first got married, and he began his first job after law school. I was an attorney’s wife. I was in the Junior League. My children went to the best schools. We were members of the best church. We were in many social groups. Camille was a debutante. Yes, she was a debutante.
Camille was raised going to etiquette classes which I taught, was a member of cotillion and made her debut at one of the best balls in the South. She had boyfriends, and we did all the right things to teach her right from wrong. Camille was an acolyte in the church and as a high student became a lector because of her ability to speak well before an audience. And, she is gay.
Camille evolved into who she is. She was born that way but did not find the courage to live true to herself until she moved to Atlanta.
She didn’t officially “come out” she just “evolved into” being who she was born to be. A gay person.
I have many friends in Montgomery as well as other small towns in the South who are supportive of her and do not believe she is going to hell.
But, I do have those who have told me they are praying for her and for me. I also officiate same-sex weddings. I have had people ask me why don’t I just pray for the right person for her or perhaps wait awhile, in case she decides she wants to marry a guy.
No, I will not wait. I am a mother who prays for her children. I pray for their spiritual needs and their earthly needs. I pray for their happiness. I pray they know how to love themselves. I have been praying this prayer for years. It seems to me that one of these prayers have been answered. Camille loves who she is as a gay woman. She does not question that she was born this way and nor do I. I am grateful that we are at the point in our lives where I can just sit back and pray for her the right girl to come along.